I often think about what am I really "seeing" when I'm in the midst of a storm? Am I seeing the end result, am I seeing the past(what I could have done to protect myself from it) or am I seeing nothing but the STORM(right then in the present)?
It is my experience that sometimes it's all these things in the blink of an eye. Sometimes it's simply the current situation.
The worst thing I can see is the PAST! Be careful when ppl say: I'm only bringing up your past so that you can learn from it and make sure it never happens again!
People (well ill say for those who are in Christ) stop listening to mans logic & wisdom...if you are constantly reminded of what went wrong...whose speaking of what to do right? Whose teaching you how to forgive & forget? YES FORGET...meaning when you truly forgive someone...when see them, hear them, the past situation is not the first thing that comes to mind! Yes I know it's HARD! It's why you need the strength of God to walk it out! Doesn't mean you have to be best friends again, or date, etc...but it does mean that there is NO ROOT of bitterness that has hold of you! (Hebrews 12:15) remember whats growing on the INSIDE of you can kill you quicker than any outside circumstance!
Please LET GOD BE THE JUDGE, for HE is the only ONE that knows the whole truth concerning the STORM! And trust He will judge accordingly. None of us have the right to judge someone...no sin greater than the other, God says that the wages if sin is death..but guess which death He speaking of...the one that count..SPIRITUAL! Why should we fear any man who can only kill the body, vs the one who can kill both?
It was through accident that left my 4yr old son lying in a hospital bed brain dead that brought me to Christ. At the time I was going through the storm I went through every emotion possible ...but GOD, my SPEECH changed from VICTIM, to CONQUEROR! And I LOST a lot of friends! I gained new ones...but that CIRCLE is small now! And filled with those who could careless who I was before Christ, but push me daily to be WHO HE CREATED ME TO BE!
Friends, family, others may never understand WHY u love someone, why u don't give up, why u won't quit? But remember its not for them too...you however must ensure that you are committed to the CALLING!